12 Ways for him to improve giving oral pleasure

1. A vagina isn't a clamshell about to snap down on your tongue and no reason to be scared. By now, in this time of feminist strife, men should have no excuse for being afraid of oral sex if it's something their partner is into. It's really all fine and good (actually very good).

2. Don't ask if it feels good every 30 seconds (that's distracting). Some women basically enter a meditative state when someone's going down on them. It's very hard to feel and enjoy oneself if you're repeatedly asking. If you're paying attention, you will know when you're doing something more than right.

3. Just latching on with your entire mouth like it's an industrial vacuum cleaner is doing nothing for my orgasm. There are so many little nooks & crannies down there.

4. Wiping your mouth off after isn't required, necessarily, but it's definitely the polite thing to do. The women of Sex and the City had a roundtable brunch discussion about this same topic, and while there is no Emily Post Guide to oral sex, this would definitely be included.

5. Just because it's called "oral sex" doesn't mean you can't incorporate things that aren't mouths too. Get creative down there buddy. If you've been at it with just your tongue for like, ten minutes, and nothing's happening, get a toy involved (& we can recommend a few!!).

6. We secretly love it when you say things like, "You taste good," or, "Your vagina is beautiful.". Part of the reason oral sex is intimidating is because it's a bit personal to have someone's face right in your most private part. It's flattering and nice to hear that you had a pleasant experience in my nether regions.

7. Don't pull away the second we come, like the ride has just come (lol) to an abrupt halt. Women's orgasms aren't typically over in a split second. When we come, all those nerve endings are aflame and firing on all systems — everything you're doing is intensified by like a million percent. Basically, help keep the idle a little longer.

8. Don't change patterns so much we can't even keep up with what you're doing, but also don't just settle into a rhythm and location, assuming that eventually she'll just come.

9. If you're annoyed that you can't manage to make us come, just man up and ask for directions. Most women won't mind kindly coaching you through the experience, we get it, there's a lot to work with down there. This only benefits both of us.

10. Putting too much pressure doesn't feel sexy, it just feels like I'm riding a weird, wet see-saw. There are like, 8,000 nerve endings in the clit alone, compared to half that in the penis.

11. Just like actual sex, we can do this in different positions so things don't get too vanilla. There's room for creativity here, people. Mix it up, try new things. It doesn't have to be missionary oral sex every single time.

12. It's probably gonna take a while, so get comfy down there. Not because it just straight-up takes women longer to come than men (it doesn't), but because of a lot of other factors (kinda nerve-wracking to have someone's face in your vag, maybe you don't know what we like yet, etc.). If it's taking too long, and you're getting a crick in your neck or something, pop up and ask if there's anything we'd like you to do.

Adjusted from Cosmo's post.