11/07/2023

12 Ways for him to improve giving oral pleasure



1. A vagina isn't a clamshell about to snap down on your tongue and no reason to be scared. By now, in this time of feminist strife, men should have no excuse for being afraid of oral sex if it's something their partner is into. It's really all fine and good (actually very good).

2. Don't ask if it feels good every 30 seconds (that's distracting). Some women basically enter a meditative state when someone's going down on them. It's very hard to feel and enjoy oneself if you're repeatedly asking. If you're paying attention, you will know when you're doing something more than right.

3. Just latching on with your entire mouth like it's an industrial vacuum cleaner is doing nothing for my orgasm. There are so many little nooks & crannies down there.

4. Wiping your mouth off after isn't required, necessarily, but it's definitely the polite thing to do. The women of Sex and the City had a roundtable brunch discussion about this same topic, and while there is no Emily Post Guide to oral sex, this would definitely be included.

5. Just because it's called "oral sex" doesn't mean you can't incorporate things that aren't mouths too. Get creative down there buddy. If you've been at it with just your tongue for like, ten minutes, and nothing's happening, get a toy involved (& we can recommend a few!!).

6. We secretly love it when you say things like, "You taste good," or, "Your vagina is beautiful.". Part of the reason oral sex is intimidating is because it's a bit personal to have someone's face right in your most private part. It's flattering and nice to hear that you had a pleasant experience in my nether regions.

7. Don't pull away the second we come, like the ride has just come (lol) to an abrupt halt. Women's orgasms aren't typically over in a split second. When we come, all those nerve endings are aflame and firing on all systems — everything you're doing is intensified by like a million percent. Basically, help keep the idle a little longer.

8. Don't change patterns so much we can't even keep up with what you're doing, but also don't just settle into a rhythm and location, assuming that eventually she'll just come.

9. If you're annoyed that you can't manage to make us come, just man up and ask for directions. Most women won't mind kindly coaching you through the experience, we get it, there's a lot to work with down there. This only benefits both of us.

10. Putting too much pressure doesn't feel sexy, it just feels like I'm riding a weird, wet see-saw. There are like, 8,000 nerve endings in the clit alone, compared to half that in the penis.

11. Just like actual sex, we can do this in different positions so things don't get too vanilla. There's room for creativity here, people. Mix it up, try new things. It doesn't have to be missionary oral sex every single time.

12. It's probably gonna take a while, so get comfy down there. Not because it just straight-up takes women longer to come than men (it doesn't), but because of a lot of other factors (kinda nerve-wracking to have someone's face in your vag, maybe you don't know what we like yet, etc.). If it's taking too long, and you're getting a crick in your neck or something, pop up and ask if there's anything we'd like you to do.

Adjusted from Cosmo's post.


11/02/2023

Los consoladores o dildos más recomendados


 

El universo de los vibradores y succionadores de clítoris cada vez es más amplio. Los nuevos lanzamientos traen consigo innovación no sólo en su tecnología, sino también en sus formas, ergonomías y materiales. Los vibradores, en concreto, popularmente también conocidos como consoladores o dildos, tienen una silueta parecida al pene masculino y no necesitan mucho manual de instrucciones (a diferencia de los vibradores de conejito) y aunque ahora no están tan extendidos como los mencionados succionadores (ya sabes que las mujeres no llegamos al orgasmo únicamente con la penetración), también tienen su público.

Y es que este juguete erótico destaca por ser mecánico, es decir, que tú controlas el ritmo y la profundidad de penetración para que, así, consigas disfrutar del orgasmo, sin estar pensando (si no te ha pasado ya) que antes de llegar, tu juguete se va a quedar sin pila. 'Psss': Ficha aquí todo sobre el orgasmo, ¿cómo saber si he tenido uno?

En apariencia, su uso es muy similar a los clásicos dedos. Pero lógicamente, con estos consoladores o dildos lograrás una penetración mucho más profunda y uniforme, que te ayudará a alcanzar el conocido punto G. Todo ello, sin necesidad de quitarte los anillos y en completo silencio. Ya puedes disfrutar de tus mejores fantasías sexuales mientras que tus compis de piso están durmiendo, sin miedo a despertarles, gracias a tu consolador.

Consolador: Cómo elegir el mejor

Pese a que su funcionamiento es bastante intuitivo, al igual que un pene, existe una amplia diversidad de formas, tamaños y materiales. Una elección que sólo está disponible en versión consolador.

En el caso de ser principiante, las expertas recomiendan, como suele ser habitual, empezar con uno de talla pequeña de silicona y, después, ir aumentando. Y eso no es todo, algunos consoladores buscan una perfecta recreación, imitando protuberancias o crestas de un propio pene. Si te gustan con esos pequeños desniveles realistas, que le aportan un disfrute distinto, merece la pena invertir en uno de una buena marca. Además, muchos son geniales para incluir en alguna de las mejores posturas sexuales del Kamasutra.

Cómo usarlos para alcanzar el máximo placer

En primer lugar, si quieres usar este consolador en pareja o en diferentes zonas de tu cuerpo, te recomendamos siempre usar condones resistentes e ir cambiándolos, para prevenir el contagio de cualquier infección o ETS. Y, por supuesto, al igual que los otros juguetes sexuales, te recomendamos, tras su uso, limpiarlos adecuadamente para evitar la formación de cualquier bacteria.

Una vez claros estos dos principios, te recomendamos introducirlo con la ayuda de algún lubricante (ficha aquí los mejores lubricantes del mercado) y dejarte llevar, en cuanto al ritmo y a las sensaciones que tengas. No obstante, como no hay nada como una buena práctica, te hemos recopilado algunos de los mejores consoladores (que están disponibles a muy buen precio), para que resulten de lo más placenteros.

Cosmopolitan- Marina Vazquez

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11/01/2023

63 Sexiest Words to Use In Your Writing



Writing can be a powerful tool to express emotions and evoke feelings in readers, but sometimes it can lack the necessary spice to make it truly captivating. To add some extra flavor to your writing, you can use sexy words to spice up your writing and make it more enticing and engaging for readers.

In this article, we will discuss what sexy words are, provide examples of sexy words, explore their benefits in writing, and offer tips for incorporating them into your work.

What are sexy words?

The word sexy itself in the English language means “arousing or exciting sexual desire” and is often used to describe something that is attractive, seductive, or alluring. In the context of writing, sexy words are words that have an emotional charge and can evoke strong feelings in readers. They are often associated with romance, passion, sensuality, and intimacy.

Sexy words can be used to describe someone or something that is alluring, captivating, and attractive. These words can be used to enhance the mood of a story, poem, or even a conversation. Some examples of sexy words include beauteous, bewitching, aphrodisiac, arousing, inviting, mature, provocative, racy, and seductive.

No matter what type of sexy words you decide to use it’s important that they come from a place of respect and admiration for your subject matter. Using the right words can make your audience feel excited. Use words that fit what you are talking about.

1. Alluring: Appealing or tempting, often in a mysterious or seductive way.

The alluring design of the new smartphone enticed many consumers to upgrade their devices.

2. Amatory: Relating to or expressing love or sexual desire.

The amatory theme of the greeting card company’s Valentine’s Day campaign led to increased sales during the romantic season.

3. Amorous: Displaying or expressing love or strong affection, especially in a romantic context.

The couple’s amorous decision to start a business together only strengthened their bond and commitment to each other.

4. Aphrodisiac: Something that stimulates or increases desire.

The restaurant’s aphrodisiac-inspired menu for Valentine’s Day attracted couples seeking a unique dining experience.

5. Arousing: Causing excitement, interest, or sexual desire.

The arousing curiosity generated by the product launch drew a large crowd at the trade show.

6. Attractive: Pleasing or appealing to the senses, especially in a sexual manner.

The attractive packaging of the organic snacks caught the attention of health-conscious consumers.

7. Bewitching: Enchanting or captivating, often in a seductive way.

The bewitching visuals in the advertisement captivated viewers and boosted brand awareness.

8. Blazing: Something that is intensely burning, shining brightly, or displaying great energy and passion.

The new fitness studio’s blazing marketing campaign, featuring powerful and passionate trainers, ignited a wave of interest among customers seeking an invigorating workout experience.

9. Breathtaking: Astonishing or awe-inspiring in beauty or charm, often causing a gasp of admiration.

The view from the mountaintop was truly breathtaking.

10. Beguiling: Charming or enchanting, often in a deceptive way.

The beguiling salesperson used her charm and wit to persuade customers to buy the more expensive product, even if they didn’t initially intend to.

11. Carnal: Relating to physical, especially sexual, pleasure or desires.

The fragrance company marketed its latest scent as a carnal indulgence that would appeal to those seeking luxury and sensuality.

12. Concupiscent: Filled with or characterized by strong sexual desire or lust.

The concupiscent imagery in the commercial sparked controversy but ultimately led to increased sales for the company.

13. Coquettish: Behaving in a flirtatious or teasing manner, often to attract attention.

The coquettish mascot of the brand charmed customers and became a recognizable symbol of the company.

14. Coy: Pretending to be shy or modest in order to be more alluring or enticing.

The marketing campaign took a coy approach, teasing the product’s features without revealing too much, creating a sense of mystery and anticipation.

15. Curvaceous: Having an attractively curved or rounded figure

The curvaceous design of the new sports car generated buzz among automotive enthusiasts.

16. Delicious: Highly pleasing to the senses or taste, often used metaphorically to describe someone or something very attractive.

The delicious taste of the innovative gourmet chocolates quickly gained a loyal following among discerning consumers.

17. Desirable: Worthy of being desired or wanted

The limited-edition release of the product made it highly desirable among collectors and fans.

18. Dirty: Indecent or vulgar, typically used to describe suggestive language or actions.

The ad campaign for the new line of luxury soaps featured a model suggestively covered in dirt, using the tagline “Get dirty to feel clean,” which created quite a buzz in the industry.

19. Enchanting: Delightfully charming or attractive, often in a captivating or magical way.

The enchanting atmosphere of the boutique hotel attracted guests looking for a unique and memorable stay.

20. Enticing: Attractive or tempting, often in a persuasive or seductive manner.

The enticing discount offer for new customers led to a significant increase in sales for the online store.

21. Erotic: Pertaining to or arousing sexual desire or excitement.

The lingerie company’s marketing strategy focused on erotic elegance, using sophisticated and sensual imagery to appeal to their target audience of confident, empowered women.

22. Exquisite: Extremely beautiful or delicate, often used to describe someone’s features or appearance.

The exquisite craftsmanship of the luxury handbags justified their high price point and exclusivity.

23. Flirtatious: Behaving in a playful, teasing manner to express attraction or interest.

The flirtatious banter between the brand’s social media accounts and their followers created a playful and engaging online presence.

24. Foxy: (informal) Attractive or appealing in a sexy or stylish way.

The foxy logo of the fashion brand appealed to young, stylish consumers seeking trendy clothing.

25. Frisky: Playful and lively, often in a sexual context.

The energy drink company used a frisky mascot to represent the invigorating effects of their product.

26. Gamy: (informal) Suggestive of impropriety or risqué behavior.

The gamy innuendo in their conversation raised a few eyebrows.

27. Gorgeous: Stunningly beautiful or attractive, often in a striking or vivid manner.

The gorgeous interior design of the new restaurant attracted patrons looking for an upscale dining experience.

28. Handsome: (typically of a man) Good-looking or pleasing in appearance.

The handsome actor was known for his dashing smile and chiseled jawline.

29. Hedonistic: Pursuing pleasure and self-indulgence, often in sensual or sexual experiences.

The hedonistic marketing strategy of the luxury travel agency enticed affluent clients seeking indulgent vacations.

30. Hotblooded: passionate, impulsive, or easily excited, often used to describe someone with a strong and intense emotional nature.

The advertisement for the new energy drink featured hotblooded athletes performing daring stunts, emphasizing the product’s ability to fuel passion and drive in its consumers.

31. Inviting: Appealing or attractive, often in a warm, welcoming, or seductive manner.

The boutique hotel’s advertising campaign highlighted their inviting, dimly lit lounge with plush seating, creating an intimate atmosphere that appealed to couples seeking a romantic getaway.

32. Kinky: Unconventional or unusual in a sexual context, often involving nontraditional practices or preferences.

The fashion brand launched a line of quirky, kinky accessories that became popular among those who appreciate unconventional styles.

33. Lascivious: Displaying overt or inappropriate sexual desire or lust.

The advertisement featuring a model in a suggestive pose received backlash for its lascivious content, causing the company to revise their marketing strategy.

34. Lush: Describes something as rich, abundant, or luxurious

The luxury spa’s lush, tropical-inspired décor and fragrant aromatherapy created a sensual oasis for clients seeking relaxation and rejuvenation in a sophisticated setting.

35. Libertine: A person who behaves free from moral considerations, especially in sexual matters.

The controversial tech mogul was known for his libertine lifestyle, causing some investors to question the stability of his leadership.

36. Libidinous: Characterized by or expressing strong desire or lust.

The fragrance company released a new scent designed to evoke libidinous feelings, targeting couples looking to enhance their romantic experiences.

37. Licentious: Lacking moral restraint, especially in sexual conduct.

The fashion brand’s licentious runway show, showcasing bold and daring designs, captured the attention of industry insiders and consumers alike

38. Luscious: Richly appealing to the senses or tastes, often used to describe someone’s appearance or physical attributes.

The bakery’s luscious cupcakes, with their rich flavors and visually appealing presentation, quickly gained popularity among dessert lovers.

39. Lustful: Filled with or driven by strong sexual desire.

The romance novel, filled with lustful encounters between the characters, became a bestseller among fans of the genre.

40. Naughty: Slightly improper, indecent, or risqué, often in a playful or teasing way.

The advertising agency created a series of cheeky, naughty ads to promote the new adult-themed board game, sparking curiosity in potential buyers.

41. Passionate: Intense, powerful, or driven by deep emotion

The gourmet restaurant’s passionate approach to crafting exquisite dishes, blending intense flavors and artful presentation, attracted discerning diners seeking a memorable and sensual culinary experience.

42. Piquant: Stimulating, intriguing, or provocative, often in a sexually appealing way.

The piquant conversation left her curious and eager to learn more about him.

43. Playful: Full of fun, lighthearted, or teasing behavior, often in a flirtatious or sensual manner.

The tech company’s playful mascot and branding helped them stand out in a crowded market, appealing to consumers looking for a fun and friendly image.

44. Promiscuous: Engaging in casual or indiscriminate sexual relationships.

The clothing brand’s promiscuous marketing campaign, featuring models in revealing outfits, sparked debate over the appropriateness of their advertising tactics.

45. Provocative: Intended to arouse sexual desire or interest, often in a bold or daring manner.

The art gallery’s provocative exhibition showcased bold and daring works that challenged societal norms, attracting a diverse audience of curious visitors.

46. Racy: Suggestive or slightly indecent, typically in a lively or humorous way.

The advertising agency developed a racy campaign for the new lingerie line, featuring daring designs and bold colors, which captured the attention of consumers seeking to add excitement to their wardrobe.

47. Raunchy: Vulgar or lewd

The comedy club’s raunchy stand-up acts drew a crowd that appreciated edgy humor and unfiltered commentary on adult topics.

48. Ravishing: Delightfully attractive or beautiful, often used to describe a person’s appearance.

The fashion designer’s ravishing new collection featured stunning gowns that captivated attendees at the runway show.

49. Risqué: Bordering on being inappropriate or indecent, often in a sexually suggestive manner.

The edgy retail store’s risqué window display featuring lingerie-clad mannequins attracted attention from passersby and generated buzz around their new collection.

50. Rousing: Exciting, stimulating, or provoking strong emotions or feelings.

The motivational speaker delivered a rousing keynote address at the business conference, inspiring attendees to pursue their professional goals with renewed vigor.

51. Saucy: Bold, lively, or flirtatious, often with a hint of sexual suggestiveness.

The restaurant’s saucy new ad campaign, featuring playful puns and mouthwatering images, enticed customers to try their latest menu offerings.

52. Seductive: Tempting or alluring

The hotel’s seductive advertising campaign, showcasing luxurious suites and romantic amenities, targeted couples seeking a getaway for special occasions.

53. Sensuous: Appealing to or gratifying the senses

The spa’s sensuous atmosphere, complete with soothing music and calming scents, provided clients with a relaxing and rejuvenating experience.

54. Sexually attractive: Appealing or desirable in a sexual manner.

The fitness center promoted its workout programs by highlighting the potential benefits of increased confidence and becoming more sexually attractive to potential partners.

55. Steamy: Hot, humid, or passionate, often used to describe a sultry atmosphere or intense romantic encounters.

The author’s steamy romance novels, filled with passionate encounters and dramatic plotlines, were a hit among fans of the genre.

56. Sultry: attractive in a way that suggests a passionate nature or strong sexual appeal.

The cosmetics company’s sultry new lipstick shades were designed to make a bold statement and enhance the wearer’s natural allure.

57. Tantalizing: Exciting, tempting, or teasing the senses or desires, often in an unattainable or elusive manner.

The food truck’s tantalizing menu, featuring unique and flavorful dishes, enticed customers to line up for a taste of their innovative cuisine.

58. Teasing: Playfully provoking or arousing interest or desire, often in a flirtatious manner.

The fashion company’s social media campaign featured teasing glimpses of its upcoming swimwear collection.

59. Titillating: Arousing or exciting

The novel’s titillating storyline, filled with suspense and intrigue, kept readers on the edge of their seats and eager for the next installment.

60. Turned on: (informal) Aroused or excited

The electronics store’s promotional event showcased the latest gadgets that turned on tech enthusiasts.

61. Wild: Unrestrained, uninhibited, or passionate, often used to describe intense or adventurous experiences.

The new adventure travel agency offers wild, adrenaline-pumping experiences for thrill-seekers.

62. Vivacious: Lively, spirited, or full of energy, often in an attractive or charming manner.

The innovative startup’s vivacious CEO captivates investors and clients alike with her dynamic presentations and charismatic presence.

63. Voluptuous: having a full, curvy figure

The fashion brand’s new collection caters to voluptuous women, providing stylish and comfortable clothing options that accentuate their curves while maintaining a professional appearance.

Benefits of using sexy words

Using sexy words in your writing can be a powerful way to captivate an audience and add depth and emotion to your work. Whether you’re writing a romantic novel, crafting a love letter, or creating a blog post, incorporating sexy words into your writing can help you express yourself more clearly and effectively.

Using a sexy word can also help make your writing more vivid and engaging. By adding descriptive details and power words into your work, you can create a more immersive experience for readers that will draw them in and keep them engaged. This type of language also helps bring out the emotion behind what you’re saying, it helps you describe things more vividly, which makes it easier for readers to connect with the story or message you’re trying to convey.

Finally, using inclusive language is essential when incorporating sexy words into your writing. It’s important to use language that is respectful and non-discriminatory so that everyone feels included and accepted regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation.

Tips on how to use sexy words in your writing

Writing with sexy words can be a great way to add some spice to your story. Here are some tips on how to make your text more sexually stimulating:

Choose the right words. When it comes to using sexy words, it’s important to pick the right ones that best describe the scene and evoke a sense of sexually attractive or sexual interest.

Use descriptive words. Descriptive words can help you paint a vivid picture in your reader’s mind and create an atmosphere of pleasure and sexual tension.

Be mindful of language barriers. English is not the only language spoken around the world, so make sure you’re aware of any potential language barriers when using sexy words in your writing.

Keep it subtle. You don’t have to be explicit or crude when writing with sexy words; subtlety can be just as effective in setting the scene for a romantic moment or creating sexual tension between characters.

Don’t overuse them. Sexy words should be used sparingly; too many will take away from their impact and make them less effective in conveying emotion or creating an atmosphere in your story.

Using sexy words in your writing can be a great way to add some spice and create an atmosphere of pleasure and sexual tension between characters, but it’s important to choose the right ones and use them sparingly for maximum effect.

Wrap up

Adding a dash of sexy words to your writing can work wonders in making your content more captivating and emotionally charged. By choosing the right words, painting vivid pictures with descriptive language, being mindful of different cultures, keeping things subtle, and not overdoing it, you can effortlessly create an alluring atmosphere for your readers. Sprinkle some sexy words into your writing, and watch as your audience becomes completely hooked on your tantalizing tales and heartfelt expressions. Happy writing.

Jenny Sharp-Jenny is a B2B Saas expert.

Postura del 69: trucos y técnicas para que sea más placentera



Si creías que esta postura ‘es lo que es y ya está’, sigue leyendo. Una experta nos ha dado algunos consejos para disfrutar (incluso más) con ella.

res de las que disfruta haciendo el 69 o has entrado aquí a ver de qué va eso de 'trucos y técnicas para que sea una postura sexual más placentera'? Sea como fuere, el '69' es una de las posiciones que –por no decir la que más– mejor se conocen del kamasutra (y eso que existen más de 150). Su popularidad se debe a que, como consiste en dar y recibir placer oralmente, se presta a ser ejecutada en algún momento del acto sexual porque es beneficiosa para todas las partes implicadas. Aparte de esta, otras como el 68 (que consiste únicamente en recibir), la del número 30 (que es una de las posturas sexuales más románticas) o el número 21 (muy placentera para las personas que tienen vagina, por cierto), también han recibido buenas críticas últimamente, como si fueran películas nominadas a los Oscars del sexo, sí son.

En cuestión de posturas no hay nada escrito (aunque algunas son las mejores posturas sexuales según el horóscopo y ahí no hay nada más que hablar). Y aún así, el 69 sigue siendo la 'fav' a la hora de poner en práctica 'el delicioso', como dicen en TikTok, por ello, hemos investigado un poco más, con el objetivo de 'desgranarla' y poder así disfrutar un poco más haciéndola en pareja. Porque, aunque la percibas como una postura simple y 'sin más', puede dar mucho de sí con sus variantes. Has leído bien: variantes del 69, fantasía.

Trucos para potenciar el placer mientras se hace la postura sexual del 69

La sexóloga Ana Lombardía cuenta: "Más que centrarse en trucos o técnicas, lo más importante es focalizarse en disfrutar con lo que estás haciendo; el 69 es una práctica que no gusta a todo el mundo, pues muchas veces cuesta pensar en el propio placer mientras estás ocupada también proporcionándolo... Por ello, es importante que lo estés pasando bien mientras das placer. Y para esto, es imprescindible que se potencie el 'egoísmo positivo', esto es, ser consciente de si el hecho de recibir te resulta placentero mientras das".

Si no terminas de encontrar el punto 'hot' al momento, Ana recomienda introducir algún juguete sexual que potencie las sensaciones. "En esta postura, la parte logística puede complicarse a la hora de introducir juguetes eróticos, pero por supuesto se pueden utilizar. Ante todo, suele ser conveniente hacer uso de uno con el que ya estemos familiarizadas", concluye. Ficha aquí los mejores juguetes eróticos para disfrutar en pareja.

Por otra parte, también puedes probar diferentes variantes de las que te hablábamos anteriormente. Presta atención, porque aquí las concretamos, ilustraciones mediante, para que la teoría quede lo más clarita posible (la práctica la dejamos de tu mano. O de tu lengua, 'aaaah'):

LA RELAJADA

Esta resulta ser la más fácil de hacer porque ambos estaréis tumbados sobre un costado y no es necesario ejercer ningún esfuerzo físico, más allá del que consiste en centrarse en dar y recibir placer.

Es genial para ejecutar, eso sí, en superficies mullidas, ya que sobre algo más duro, como un suelo o una mesa (ejem), es incómodo y propicia que se pierda la concentración. Si quieres, pide a tu pareja que intercale sus 'propias herramientas' con unos de los mejores juguetes sexuales del mercado. Para una experiencia diferente.

LA DEL AGUANTE




Con esta, quien se coloque arriba tendrá que sostener su peso sobre sus brazos. Es 'facilona' porque si eres tú la de arriba, puedes tener cierto control sobre tu cuerpo, tanto para dar como para recibir, pues permite más movimiento, pero te costará no perderlo si te acercas al orgasmo, ¡a ver quién aguanta más!

'Psss': para un extra de placer, dale a uno de los mejores lubricantes con efecto.

LA DEL FT. DE TUS JUGUETES SEXUALES PREFERIDOS

Como hemos comentado, si te apetece introducir juguetes para potenciar el placer, esta variante es la que mejor se adapta. De hecho, es la clásica, solo que los 'amiguitos' vibradores y succionadores serán unos aliados 'deluxe'. Lo guay es que podéis usarlos mientras los combináis con vuestras propias lenguas, pero el 'contra' es que potenciaréis tanto las sensaciones que 'el momento meseta' durará más bien poco, tú ya me entiendes...

¿Con qué variante te animarás? Recuerda que si incluyes juguetes o lubricantes, lo que mola es alternarlo con el trabajo oral (o manual), la sensación será más 360º (por llamarlo de alguna manera) y muy placentera. ¿Los mejores con los que podéis probar algo diferente en este caso? Los lubricantes con efecto calor, porque potencian las sensaciones hasta niveles insospechados.

¡Felices próximos 69! (En sentido figurado, claro está, uf).

@Cosmopolitan

7/07/2023

101 LUBES ~ Here are 13 ways you probably aren’t but totally should be using lube


The amount of times I’ve hooked up with a guy only for him to be like, “I’ve never used lube before,” is legit kind of horrifying. Lube has a reputation for being “for old people” or people who are “dried up” but like, did you really think the 30 seconds of manic making out and pawing at my boobs were going to make me that wet, Josh? Every sexual encounter can be improved upon by using lube. Legit every single one. Lube makes sex more comfortable and pleasurable for everyone involved, and gives you room to get more creative with sex. Silicone is especially great for shower or pool hookups or anal because it stays slicker for longer, and won’t wash away in water. Just know some silicone-based lubes can break down condoms, so use a backup birth control method and communicate clearly with your partners about STIs.

Now for the fun stuff: Here are 13 ways you probably aren’t but totally should be using lube. Go forth, and enjoy the slippery ride.

1. Use it for hand jobs and fingering.

Real talk: if the idea of rubbing your dry palms on your partner’s penis—or alternatively, spitting into your hands every few minutes—seems meh, have I got news for you! A generous helping of lube will make even the most awkward hand job–giver look like a bona fide handy expert. Lubing up his penis and your hand will ensure that any movement feels heavenly, and gives you more room to experiment with new techniques.
Same with fingering. Is there anything worse than a clammy finger exploring underneath your underwear when you’re not wet? Nope. Make things easier for both the fingerer and the fingeree by applying some lube to both the receiver’s vulva and clitoris and the giver’s fingertips for maximum sensation sans uncomfy friction.

2. Use it during cunnilingus.

Look, dry mouth happens to the best of us. Whether you’re on certain medications that give you cotton-mouth or you’re just, like, straight up dehydrated, getting/giving head with a sandpaper tongue is an uncomfortable experience for everyone involved. Add a bit of unflavored (flavored lubes could cause irritation) lube to the receiver’s vulva before diving in, and everyone will be a little bit happier.

3. Use it pre–dry hump sesh.

Using lube during an act called dry humping might seem counterintuitive: but bear with me. If you can excuse yourself and sneak off into your bathroom for a second before things get hot and heavy, try applying a little bit of lube to your vulva and clitoris before any dry humping commences. (Bonus: If you feel uncomfy about applying lube during sex in front of your partner, this cuts out any performance anxiety in front of an audience.)
The vagina responds more to pressure rather than friction, sex therapist Cyndi Darnell previously explained to Cosmopolitan. This is but one reason dry humping is considered better than sex to some. By lubing yourself up, you have more room to amp up the pleasure-inducing pressure without the potential of an underwear rug-burn.

4. Break it out before penetrative sex even happens.

Lube has this reputation as being something you pull in off the bench during penetrative sex when a partner is having a harder time maintaining their own lubrication, and this is total BS. Help break this taboo by bringing your new slick friend out during foreplay. Have a partner place some in their palm and grind your vulva and labia against it for a new twist on a hand job for women.

5. Use it for a warming massage.

The first rule of using warming lube (it heats up with any body-to-body contact or friction) is to never use it without telling your partner first (unless you want them thinking you’ve just put Icy Hot in their private parts). Other than that, there really are no rules–go forth and heat things up! One suggestion? Use a few dollops on your partner’s (or your own) nipples for nipple stimulation that’s literally hotter than ever.

6. Use it to amp up his orgasm.

During sex with a male partner, dab a few little droplets of lube onto his perineum—aka the extra-sensitive spot between his scrotum and anus. Just before he orgasms, lightly tap your finger on the lubed-up spot to change the whole damn game and send him over the edge.

7. Use it when you masturbate.

Yes, even sex with yourself can be improved with lube. If you have dry hands, no need to use a moisturizing lotion that could contain unwanted chemicals, especially because you don’t want those ingredients inside you. Just apply a few drops of a water-based lube to your finger before touching yourself for a smoother feel.

8. Use it when you masturbate with a vibrator.

Imagine the electrifying pulse of your favorite vibrator hitting all the right spots. Now imagine using that same toy to gently glide over your clitoris with the same power, but a totally different, more fluid sensation. A dab of lube on a vibrator is a total game-changer. Just be careful: If your sex toy is made of silicone, you’ll definitely want to use a water-based lube, since silicone lubes can deteriorate soft rubber.

9. Use it during vaginal intercourse, obvi.

There’s no wrong way to use lube during intercourse. You can apply it directly to your body, or to the penis or condom itself. My personal rule of thumb is to start with a dime-size dollop and work up from there. Sure, you may encounter a point at which it’s too much (he’s slipping everywhere, it’s dripping excessively on the sheets), but that's easily remedied with a paper towel. You don’t want to reduce all the friction, but that threshold is personal for everyone and you’ll know it when you feel it.

10. Use it inside the condom.

First off, no guy should ever whine about how using a condom “ruins sex.” Buck up, my man. But if your partner is looking for more ways to increase feeling while being protected, Eric Garrison, sexologist and author of Mastering Multiple-Position Sex, has a suggestion. “Many guys complain that a condom diminishes the sensation,” Garrison previously told Cosmopolitan.com. “Adding a little lube ups the sensitivity he feels inside the latex.” If you put a drop or two inside the rubber before you unroll it, that might unlock a world of feeling, and it should certainly be enough to shut him up.

11. Use it during anal intercourse (obvi).

While you might hit a limit of “yeah, too much” during vaginal intercourse, that threshold will be much lower with anal sex, because unlike your vagina, your booty does not create its own lubricant to make things slidey and glidey. SO LOAD IT ON THERE! When it comes to any butt stuff, too much lube and precaution are never enough.

12. Use it during a blowjob.


This might sound counterintuitive, but it's true! Sex therapist Gina Ogden, PhD, author of The Return of Desire, previously explained: “Women often use spit, but it can be hard to muster up enough. A flavored lube provides enough wetness that your jaw won’t get as tired.” So there you have it…

13. Use it for a sexy massage.

Why not try a body-safe lube during nonsexual foreplay? A few squirts can turn a back massage from relaxing to “holy hell, your touch is electrifying, can we please have sex right now?”
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Keep Your Marriage Hot – 14 Relationship Experts Explain How

 


How to Keep Sex Alive in Marriage

Great sex in marriage requires effort and creativity. Learn the best tips on how to keep your marriage hot from 14 relationship experts.

Set the Stage for Passion

April Masini, known to millions for her ‘Ask April’ relationship advice column, reminds us that great sex in marriage doesn’t always “just happen.” Often sexual intimacy requires effort and creativity. Think back to when you were trying to make a good impression on those early dates and rekindle that vibe.

“Strategic planning is part of keeping the X in your sex life. Things don’t always fall into place, but if you set the stage, they’re much more likely to. For instance, create the mood with music, candles, and other nice lighting, and wear what you think he or she will find attractive. Light a fire in the fireplace, have the wine or champagne chilled and don’t worry about what’s for dinner — have takeout ready to go. You’ll be setting the stage for sex without indicating so.”

April suggests an upgrade on the traditional date. “If you’re both stressed, consider a massage instead of a movie. Either do it yourself or hire someone to come in…and then leave! Make your dinner and a movie date a light take-out sushi, sensuous couples massage, and some crisp wine or cocktails that aren’t too syrupy or sweet, to create a mood for sex.”

Make Time for Sex

The effectiveness of smart planning is echoed by Patricia Johnson and Mark Michaels, co-authors of Partners in Passion. They acknowledge the difference between spontaneous sex and a precalculated rendezvous but admit that in today’s hectic world, a bit of planning can pay off in the bedroom.

“Schedule at least two erotic encounters a week for the next month. It’s up to you whether these encounters include orgasms for one or both of you. Take note of how this affects your general level of desire. We suggest that couples take extra-long lunch breaks so that they can meet at home for an early afternoon tryst. This type of weekly ritual keeps partners feeling hot for each other.”

While spontaneity is often equated with romance, don’t kid yourself into thinking that you’re not already part of a plan, as Patricia Johnson points out. “For most couples, dating is effectively a form of engaging in scheduled sex. Even if sex in this context feels spontaneous, it has actually been planned. Thus, scheduling sex is okay for most people, in certain contexts, provided they don’t openly acknowledge the scheduling.”

Nonsexual Intimate Touch is Critical

While no sexpert will deny the importance of touching as a key component in intimate sexual relations, relationship coach and author Lisa Hayes points out that touching outside of sex is just as vital to a steamy romance.

“When two people first meet they can’t keep their hands off of each other. They hold hands when they sit next to each other. They snuggle on the sofa when they watch TV. They touch in passing as often as they can. They crave the touch and that kind of touch fuels sexual desire. As a relationship progresses and life takes over, that kind of touch tends to diminish. But you want the fire in the bedroom to continue to burn hot.

Nonsexual touch defines two people as a couple even more than sex does. It stimulates oxytocin production which is the bonding brain chemical. Foreplay starts way before you take your clothes off. Nonsexual intimate touch is a very important part of foreplay and it should be happening all day every day. When it’s happening, two people are far more open to each other both emotionally and physically.”

 

Talk About Sex More, Money Less

When we asked Lisa Hayes for marriage advice that doesn’t involve touching, she was quick to point out that what you discuss (and don’t discuss) as a couple can impact your relationship in unusual ways.

“Both sex and money are often very charged topics, however, couples will find a way to talk about or fight about money a lot. It’s very common for sex to be a topic that is almost taboo between two people who sleep together and share a life. I’m always surprised by what people can’t talk about when it comes to their bodies. Sex needs to be something that a couple can discuss freely if their sex life is going to evolve. If a sex life doesn’t evolve it will die.”

But how can couples open up about subjects that they may not be comfortable talking about? Apparently, practice is the key. Hayes says, “The easiest way to normalize the subject of sex is to talk about it a lot. Even if you can’t talk about your sex life, you can still talk about sex in general. You can always tell what a couple’s priorities are by noticing how much time they spend discussing anything. Kids, jobs, and money are usually at the top of the list. Sex needs to be there at the top if two people are going to stay connected.”

Relationship therapy team Judith Claire and Frank Wiegers are the authors of So THAT’S Why They Do That! Men, Women, and Their Hormones. They agree with Ms. Hayes’s advice on initiating an open dialog about sex with your spouse.

“Communicating about sex can be difficult for some while others want to talk about it all of the time. It’s not a good idea to have serious sex talks while you are in the process of making love. The only talk you want during the lovemaking process is words of love and endearment. If there are some issues that you want to resolve around your sex life, it’s best to broach the subject somewhere else — like the living room or better yet on a walk or over coffee. A fun way to start is to ask each other for five fun things that you like about sex and then follow up with five things that you don’t like about sex.”

Use Technology to Heat Up Your Marriage

Lifestyle strategist Natalie Blais has a different opinion of phones and computers. “Rather than viewing technology as something that takes away from a relationship, couples can use it to draw closer, enhance the romance and keep their relationship on track and sexy.”

While this advice may seem contrary to the experts who tell you to unplug, Blais has a more realistic approach to how you can turn your electronic device into a relationship saver. “Couples in 2015 need to learn how to use technology to their advantage! With the ability to video chat, text, message, Facebook, tweet and so much more, it is monumentally easier to stay close, connected, and intimate.”

When asked for examples of what sort of content works best, Natalie explains. “If you took one minute each day to send your mate a sexy text message, a short mini strip tease video, a quick series of photos imagining your sexual encounter that coming evening, whatever the mood strikes you. Leverage the tools that are literally at your fingertips to keep those interactions red-hot. Couples who are flirty, fun, and playful will stand the test of time and the test of their relationship.”

What Does SEXY Mean to You?

When we asked Los Angeles-based psychologist Dr. Judy Rosenberg for her advice on how to keep your marriage hot, she came back with this fun acronym for S.E.X.Y.

S is for safety- Without safety, emotional and otherwise, you can’t have a marriage. Safety means protecting your spouse’s feelings.

E is for energy – You have to invest energy into your marriage, sexual and otherwise. It’s not 50/50, it’s 100/100 percent.

X is for X factor – It’s the wildcard. Surprise your spouse in a way that makes the person feels X-tra special: flowers, surprise sexual romps, picnics, trips, etc.

Y is for yes – Forget the computer and cell phone, and spend quality time with your loved one. Try to eliminate “No, I don’t have time” from your vocabulary for a bit and just say yes, as long as it’s not offensive or abusive.

“Remember, SEXY is the relationship — mind, body, and soul,” says Rosenberg. “SEXY is when all three come together to enhance each person and create a 1+1=3, meaning that the collective we become more than who we are individually.”

Adults Need Playdates Too

Cammi Balleck, author of Happy, The New Sexy, advises couples to “accept each other for who they are and don’t try to change each other.” She explains that people can strengthen their bonds in simple ways. “Express appreciation every day for one thing. Do activities that you did together when you fell in love. My husband and I fell in love while climbing mountains. Every time we climb it brings our sexy back.”

Balleck’s advice about finding activities that bond you and your partner is cosigned by many relationship experts, such as parenting coach Monique Prince. She takes the tip a step further and suggests couples “Be brave and try new things together. Whether it’s a game of checkers or sky diving, do something together often.”

Prince makes an excellent point that often gets overlooked when planning dates with your mate. “Don’t keep dates for nighttime only. If Sunday is your only day off, Sunday afternoon can be your date night — or a weekday morning. Be open to different times of day to have a date with your spouse.”

Dates don’t have to be elaborate, it’s the togetherness that counts. Prince mentions one free date idea that can do wonders for a marriage. “Take a walk and ask about the best part and worst part of the other’s day. Listen to each other’s needs and meet them.” Once your partner feels appreciated, intimacy will follow, and often the sex will be improved.

“Sex separates the married from the unmarried so have a ball. Make love a lot and in a variety of places. Back rubs, massages, and taking a tub or shower together is wonderful,” says Prince. “Make sure both feel satisfied sexually, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.”

Need some inspiration to get on the right track? We’ve got you covered – these 21 sexy date ideas will work with any budget (including no budget), and will have you cozied up to your partner in no time.

 

Role Play As Much As You Can

“Nothing beats boredom in the marriage more than a sexy romp of ‘Doctor and Nurse’,” says Sandy Daley, relationship columnist and author of Whose Vagina Is It, Really? “Plus this gets you out of character and you might learn a thing or two about your partner’s likes and dislikes.”

Daley urges people to not be afraid of experimenting. “Couples need to let themselves be ‘uncomfortable’ during intimacy. Only through experimentation are they able to get to a higher place. Of course, there should always be the opportunity to stop if you begin to feel too uncomfortable during any intimate act.”

On the topic of playing out your fantasies, Judith Claire concurs. “Role-playing games are fun. Try scenarios such as pizza man and horny housewife, teacher and pupil, doctor/patient, sheik/harem girl, cowboy/schoolmarm, or cop/hooker. Costumes can be fun too. Light B&D (bondage and discipline) with cuffs and ropes including light spanking can also be exciting.”

Sexy Costumes: Not Just for Halloween

One common theme that several of our pros hit upon is the effectiveness of lingerie and kinky costumes to help the ladies feel sexy and confident while offering their spouse some arousing eye candy that signifies an evening is about to heat up. 

Relationship expert Hope A. Rising puts this theory to the test in her own relationship. “Once or twice a month I like to go to the adult store and buy sexy costumes, then create a theme around the costume. My guy never knows when he comes home who is going to greet him at the door or what the evening holds for him.”

Our resident sexologist, Dr. Jess gave similar advice in a recent AskMen interview with Aly Walansky. “I work at a few erotic resorts in the Caribbean (Desire Resorts and Hedonism II) and the couples have so much fun picking their outfits and dressing up that they can’t help but reignite the spark!”

Dr. Jess understands the psychology behind roleplaying, and offers this interesting tidbit of information:

“Oftentimes, the most appealing roles are those that stray most significantly from our lived reality. If you manage great responsibility at work or in the home, you may derive great pleasure from indulging in a submissive role. And if you spend most of your days catering to everyone else’s needs, playing a selfish role may be the perfect escape from reality.”

Sparking the Fire and Keeping it Burning

Although Tiffany Mason, a life coach who specializes in “designing a meaningful marriage,” didn’t see the advice that the rest of our relationship panel offered — her actionable tips perfectly summarize and reiterate what the others suggest to keep your marriage hot:

● Drink a glass of wine and eat a piece of chocolate with your partner

● Turn off the television and light some candles

● Surprise your spouse by giving them a back massage before they fall asleep

● Dress up in sexy lingerie when your husband comes home from work

● Send your lover a naked photo of yourself


So what’s the secret to keeping the passion burning in your marriage? The answer to “how to keep sex alive in marriage” boils down to being open, giving, playful, committed, bold, creative, and, of course, keeping your sex sessions well lubricated. Do you have any tips that have worked to keep your marriage hot over the years? If so, please share your own secrets to marital bliss by tweeting us @ASTROGLIDE!