How to flirt with text messaging

Text it to me dirty, baby

If you're like most girls, the idea of sending your lover a sexy text can be quite exciting. It also doesn't hurt knowing that the little ding of the cell phone text could alert your lover while he's in a meeting, in class, or in line somewhere. No matter where he is, he can get your message -- loud and clear.

How to flirt with text messaging

There are so many benefits to sending sweet or naughty text messages. For starters, they are a great way to keep the spice in your relationship and serve as a thoughtful reminder when received unexpectedly. If you want to let your man know what you're thinking but have a hard time saying it, the text will do it for you!
Likewise, if you've just started dating and you're ready to move your relationship to that next level, a flirty text will certainly have him intrigued and wanting more. But the best reason to send them is that they are safe and fun.
Sending a sexy text can be fun and flirty and can share good insight as to how your partner responds to verbal affection. Also, it can serve as a way to keep things heated up between you two until the next time you see each other in person.

How 2 sexy text

Depending on what type of phone you have, you may run into the issue of having limited characters to say what you want over a text.
But you don't have to over-complicate things -- when it comes to texting, less is more. You're not writing a novel, but just delivering a fun, sexy hello. Check out these 10 ideas below for short abbreviated texts that definitely get the message across!

10 Sexy text message ideas

1. u look hot 2day
2. hey baby
3. i want to touch u
4. wanna come play?
5. thinking bout u right now
6. what r u wearing?
7. cnt wait 2 c u
8. thx 4 lst nite
9. guess what im wearing
10. u r so sxy

Long distance relationship flirty text ideas

If you and your special someone have found yourselves in a long distance relationship, here are a few sexy text message ideas to send.

• Even though we are apart, my love you will never part.
• Hand in hand and heart to heart my love for you shall never part.
• 1000 miles away and you are still right here in my heart
• I'd walk a thousand miles to touch you tonight
• I can't wait to be in your arms again
• Can't get you out of my head
• The best is yet to come
• My dream come true would be waking up next to you
• Being away from you is the hardest thing I've ever had to do

Romantic text Ideas

If you're a romantic at heart and just want to send the occasional text to remind you're loved one that he or she is on your mind, try one of these heart-warming romantic text message ideas.

• In case you didn't know, I'll be loving you always and forever!
• Loving you has been the best thing to ever happen to me!
• Your love is all I'll ever need.
• You are the center of my world. And for that, I am thankful each day.
• Even though we are apart, my love you will never part.
• You are on my mind now and always.
• I love you more with each passing day.
  

  More flirty text inspirations

  If you want more inspiration, Virgin Mobile might have you covered. A new site has been created called Let's Have Txt, which will teach you more about how to write those dirty messages that are so fun to send.
  It's also a great place to go if you are apprehensive about sending those naughty text messages. You can go and choose a helpful professional that will work with you and teach you a thing or two about sending hot erotic messages -- the same kinds of messages you wish to send that special someone. Your lover will be shocked and satisfied when he finds that naughty girl he may not have seen in quite some time!
  It will definitely set the scene for a hot night, whether you are doing it for a special occasion like Valentine's Day or just because you want to have a memorable evening any day of the week. (You can even send a sexy message thanking him for the night before... and of course, this might lead to an encore performance.)

Top 10 sex positions for mind-blowing orgasms

O, Yes

 

I always thought it was a myth that there are certain sex positions that can help a woman climax faster and better. Say it isn't so? If this is true, why haven't we been schooling our men? I took my inquiry to the sex-perts and uncovered that there are, in fact, such positions. Obviously, I'm going to share them with you -- that way, we can all be having the best sex of our lives! Read on for the top 10 sex positions for achieving mind-blowing orgasms.

The butterfly position or modified missionary

"With the woman on her back and her hips on the edge of the bed, the man penetrates her while standing. She then puts her legs over his shoulders and tilts her hips slightly upwards. This gives a wonderful angle for cervical stimulation with deep penetration that can produce some intense vaginal and uterine orgasms. With more shallow penetration, a man can stimulate the anterior vaginal wall to hit the G-spot."
--Dr. Madeleine M. Castellanos, a psychiatrist who specializes in sex therapy

Modified coital alignment technique

"A couple starts off in missionary position. Once a man penetrates a woman deeply, he allows her to bring her legs together between his. He then shifts his weight slightly forward so that the shaft of his erection is producing firm pressure and friction on her clitoris as he moves. This works very well for women that prefer to have clitoral stimulation during penetration to reach a very powerful orgasm."
--Dr. Castellanos

Baring the scepter

"Either partner can perform this technique, although the bottom person's hands may be more able to pull it off. Form a ring with thumb and forefinger around the base of the penis. Then, pull down so the skin on the shaft is taut. This exposes more nerve endings and increases the penis' sensitivity -- it can also help maintain his erection. Engage in intercourse with your hand still encircling the base to send his pleasure soaring."
--Jaiya, new world sex educator and author of "Red Hot Touch"

The counter top

"This is my favorite. It's when the woman is laying on her back on the counter or table while he enters standing. It's rough. There's pushing aside of papers, pepper shakers which add to the sense of urgency and inappropriateness. It's easy to maneuver and move the woman to slide along the counter. There is still contact. He goes deep and feels in control. It works all the way around. The keys are clothing, stuff in the way, and being in an open space. Still allows for connection while feeling dirty. It just works on so many levels. It's not about acrobats. It's about context."

The seated scissors

"This position allows the woman to have the control in order to determine the depth and angle of penetration, as well as how much clitoral stimulation she gets. With the man laying flat on his back and his knees bent, she straddles him with one leg to the side of his hip, and the other leg between his legs. The woman can then find just the right spot to grind against his pubic bone with him inside her. She controls the pace, the depth, and the amount of pressure and friction she receives. This is definitely a prescription for mind-blowing sex!"

Get off, stand up

"I'm no [pro], but whenever I've had sex standing up and holding my partner in the air or up against the wall, it's been mind-blowing for both of us. I suspect it taps into some of our innate gender differences: the strong man and the small woman, which in turn heightens the sexual experience. It also forces us to be in a full embrace, which furthers the emotional connection, as well as our physical one. It's physically demanding and not for all couples but for those that can, it's highly recommended."
--Jim, an experienced heterosexual male

Uncloaking the clit

"Given a woman's clitoris is buried under the clitoral hood and cushiony mons pubis surrounding it, it's no wonder this tiny nub rarely receives enough stimulation during intercourse to catch the O-train. Your hands, though, can help change that. Form a 'V' with your index and middle finger and point your fingers toward your feet. Press this V onto the mons pubis, with a finger to each side of the clitoris. Then, pull up, moving the skin with your hand. This should unveil the hard-to-reach clit in all its glory, exposing this little love button to a lot more action."
--Jaiya

Shake 'n' bake

"If you're craving a quick-but-stimulating break from intercourse, this move is the perfect titillating timeout. To do it, the man withdraws and rests the tip of his penis on the clitoris. Then, hold the base of the penis and shake it quickly from side to side so that the head hits the clitoris with every wiggle. In doing so, you'll be stimulating both heads at once -- that of the clitoris and the penis -- which should send you both into paroxysms of pleasure."

Pushing tush

"If your guy enjoys having his back door explored, reach around with both hands and grab both cheeks. From there, you can do 'Butt Yoga' (a technique whereby you spread the cheeks apart, then together, one up one down then vice versa) or 'Anal Yoga' (a technique whereby you place your middle fingers to the sides of the anus then spread them apart, then diagonally, then up and down). If that gets him hankering for more, feel free to delve deeper."

Happy scissors

"Heating up hot spots aren't your hands-only talents. They're also great at moving body parts where you want them, and this technique is a prime opportunity. During intercourse, raise your legs, then have your man hold an ankle in each hand. From there, you can spread her legs apart, hold them together, part them at 80 degrees, the options are endless. And since the tendons of the legs pivot deep in the pelvic cavity, moving them around will subtly alter the below-the-belt sensations for you both. Talk about getting a leg up on a little variety!"

  by Brie Gatchalian

5 Things he wants you to say in bed

Dirty Talk

For a man, nothing is sexier than a woman who is loud in bed and participates in a little dirty talk. Below are five things your man is dying to hear you mouth off about.

Him

Men want to know that you're not visualizing someone else when you're with them or just phoning it in, so although it may seem basic, saying (or screaming out) his name in bed is a good way to ease into dirty talk. Punctuate it with a few "ooohs" and moans and it will be more than enough to get him going.

The Action

If you're being a tad quiet, many men will take the initiative and let you know what they'd like to hear by peppering you with questions, such as "What am I doing to you?" and "How does that feel?"
In this case, simply describing the mise en scène and how you feel will suffice. However, don't feel like obligated to use cuss words if it's not your style. Instead, take a cue from romance novels and utilize under-used verbs like "pulse," "swell," and "throb."

Your Fantasies

Nothing counts when it's said in between the sheets, so if you're feeling confident, why not seize the opportunity and tell him all of your craziest fantasies and dreams? If the thought leaves you tongue-tied, try practicing in front of a mirror – especially the particularly naughty parts – until you are able to say them without feeling embarrassed or laughing.

Stock Dirty Phrases

Sometimes just having sex is intimate enough, and the idea of pouring out all of your deepest desires, especially in a new relationship, is too much. However, you don't want to be mute. For those times, any of the following stock sexy phrases will work:
"Oh, yeah, right there!"
"That feels amazing"
"Don't stop, harder"
"I want you so bad"
"Give it to me!"
"You animal!"

Get Creative

Men can be just as insecure as women; so sometimes a little vocal encouragement is all that's needed to let them know that you are enjoying what they're doing. Sometimes a few soft purrs can be just as effective as a well-rehearsed speech, so don't be afraid to get creative. Whatever you do to cheerlead them along will make your bedroom romp all the more exciting.
 by Margeaux Baulch Klein

Tips To Get Men More Into Foreplay

Sexologist Dr. Brian Parker doles out pointers for ladies with foreplay-resistant men.

Why do men seem to have a hard-wired disdain for generous servings of foreplay?

Women have probably internally wondered for centuries why men devour sex like a two-bite dollar meal instead of savoring like a five-course feast. Let's be honest, more times than not, a metaphorical bill has arrived before most women have even had a chance to finish buttering the bread.
Do they think we don't want foreplay? Are they just super-selfish? Lazy? Take us for granted? Secretly inexperienced?

These are all pretty valid questions. Hitchedmag.com tackled this aged old sexual dilemma recently. Mostly, sexologist Dr. Brian Parker attempts to defend his gender as Dr. Trina Read claims men just want to "pop off a couple of orgasms" and hit the hay.We couldn't have said it better ourselves.)



Below are Dr. Brian Parker's explanations and tips to get your fella more interested in tasting all the appetizers before paying the check:


1.) Maybe he's just trying to be a manly man: "At a very young age boys are taught that things like hugging, kissing and touching are feminine," says Dr. Parker. "And, God forbid, any Wrangler wearin’, meat eatin’ man with a shed full of tools seems ‘girly.’" 


2.) Men are embarrassingly clueless: "Truth is, most men don’t know diddly squat about the female body’s erogenous zones and her sexual response cycle," he says. "So gals, you can simply ask your man directly what he likes to give and receive during foreplay. Then you can share your response. And if you can’t bare to tell him, show him. Guide his hands over your "hot" spots showing him just how you like to be touched." 

3.) Use the "sensate focus" tool: "Here, couples explore their partner’s entire body," Parker says. "Remember, we are sexual beings from the ends of our hair to the tips of our toes. Mutually exploring your bodies will help your partner learn exactly what you like. And you might learn a little bit about him too. Yes, guys don’t just want to be touched there!" 

4.) Play on his selfishness: "Tell him that foreplay lasts longer than sex (generally about 12 minutes) and that the longer you touch, slurp and fondle, the more explosive the orgasm is for you…and him." 

 By Melissa Noble.

10 Expert Tips for That Hot Bedroom Romance

Bedroom Romance

What good are a thousand red roses if you don’t enjoy making love together? Bedroom romance is just as important as all those sweet romantic things you do together. We all know a relationship can never be great without it.

No matter how busy your lives are, don’t forget to make time for some quality lovemaking. Enjoy being lovers! Take your romance a little further, and create an amazing hot bedroom romance with your lover!
If you would like some easy tips on how to make your bedroom feel like a very romantic place, have a look at my Romantic Bedroom Ideas.

10 Expert Tips for That Hot Bedroom Romance

When it comes to good lovemaking attitude and knowledge about each other is just important as technique. To help you heat things up for real, I have made this list of 10 very good expert tips. To me they are simply the best tips you can get. You may be surprised…

1. Know your lover and yourself
   What are your desires, fantasies, likes and dislikes? Before you can become a great lover, you have to know yourself. Michael Webb, Opera Love Expert, really underlines the importance of this in his Virtuoso Lover e-book trilogy.
   So, do you know yourself? Think about it.
   Get to know yourself. Get to know your lover. And let your lover get to know you. Trust is a must for this. You need enough trust to be vulnerable and open up to each other.
   The more fun you make it, the easier it is. That is why I love bedroom games. It’s such a great way to share your intimate thoughts and secrets. It’s fun and exciting, and incredibly enlightening!
   
2. Understand the opposite sex
   Good lovemaking is not so much about technique. It is more about understanding how the male and the female body and mind feel and work during foreplay and lovemaking.Men and women are different in so many aspects.
   Our bodies can react very differently to the same things. We are turned on by different things. Take some time to learn about these differences. To really understand how your lover’s body and mind works.
   
   
3. Become masters of foreplay
   Setting the mood for lovemaking with scented candles, music, and maybe even some rose petals is perfect for good bedroom romance. But it takes more than that to create spark between the sheets.
   Become masters of flirting and teasing. Become masters of seduction. Become masters of turning each other on. Make sure you get those bodies excited and ready for what’s coming next. It’s fun and it really pays off!
   Orgasm expert Jason Julius talks about the importance of foreplay in his Orgasm Arts videos. He says that a woman can feel many times more pleasure from intercourse when she is really turned on before it starts. And that is so true!
   For a woman to be able to experience an amazing orgasm, she simply has to be completely aroused before intercourse. With that little fact on the table, it is safe to say that when it comes to hot lovemaking a real foreplay is a must!
   Knowing this, any man who wants to give his woman as much pleasure as possible during love making will value the importance of foreplay. And any woman who wants to experience great pleasure from lovemaking will never let her man skip it!
   
   
4. Make love with your body, mind, and spirit
   Be fully present in the moment. Be there in body, mind, and spirit. It will make a huge difference not just for you, but also for your partner.
   Gentlemen, don’t just focus on cumming, enjoy the ride too! Ladies, don’t think about what’s on TV tonight, or what groceries you need!
   Be in the moment and focus on what you are doing and feeling right now. Be present in every single moment, every single second. Consciously feel every movement, every touch, and everything that is going on. Use all your senses.
   According to Karinna Kittles-Karsten, expert on sexuality and sensuality, this is a very important step towards igniting sexual passion in a relationship. If you can master this your bedroom romance will be much more enjoyable!
   
5. Feel good about yourself
   If you want to be great in bed you have to feel good about yourself. You have to embrace your own sexuality and love your own body. You have to accept yourself just the way you are.
   The more comfortable you are, the more relaxed you are. The more relaxed you are, the more you will enjoy the experience. And so will your partner! This is especially important for the ladies, as we tend to never be completely happy with our bodies.
   I have a recording of a very enlightening interview of Alex Allman, author of Revolutionary Sex. He really points out the importance of this. He says that the absolute number one thing that makes a woman great in bed is that she is comfortable with her own body and sexuality.
   He also talks about how woman feel that men judged by their physical beauty. And that cannot be denied. But, according to Alex, physical beauty counts nowhere near as much as women believe it does. So, start accepting yourself! And why not give your partner some compliments? Give them in general, give them during foreplay, and during lovemaking. A little compliment can go a long way!
   
6. Experience the real female orgasm
   All women can experience the big O! But as you have probably understood by now, there are many things that influence in a woman’s capability to reach an orgasm.
   Ladies, get to know and love your own body. Know what works for you, what turns you on and what brings you over the edge. Learn to clear your mind, leave all worries behind, relax and just enjoy yourself!
   Gentlemen, learn how to get your lover really excited. Explore her body, play with her and learn exactly what she likes and what turns her on. Learn how to turn on her mind. Understand how her mind and body work together, and what it really takes to give her an explosion of pleasure!
   
   
7. Experience the joys of oral love making
   Oral love making can be really amazing. It can be such a gift of love! If you haven’t yet experienced the pleasures of giving and receiving good oral sex in your relationship, you are really missing out!
   We all know men love to get head. And for women, going down on her is usually the absolute easiest way to give her an orgasm. John Alexander, author of “Be Her Best Lover Ever” even says that cunnilingus the most important skill a man can have in bed. So yes, oral love making is fantastic! Now, for most people the receiving is easy to enjoy. But, it is important to enjoy giving oral sex too. First of all because you shouldn’t do anything you don’t like doing. But also because you will actually give much more pleasure if you enjoy the giving!
   In a survey, thousands of men were asked what makes a blow job really good to them. And believe it or not, it wasn’t just technique. The absolute number one thing was actually if the person giving it was enjoying it.
   The same goes for women. She will not be able to relax and truly enjoy it if she thinks you don’t enjoy going down on her.
   If you feel insecure because you don’t really know what to do, or how to do it right, then don’t worry. You can learn. What I did to feel more confident was to simply read about it. I read Michael Webb’s Blow by Blow. He has also written Lick by Lick for men.
   Having a better idea of the theory behind it made me feel much more secure. I learned different techniques. And more importantly, I knew what not to do. It was great!
   So go for it!
   
   
8. Don’t get stuck in a routine
   Routine can kill the joy of any bedroom romance. Don’t be afraid to try new things. Be adventurous and creative. Have fun with some bedroom games. Try different positions. Get some toys or props. Have sex in new places. Have fun and spice things up
9. Go for dirty talk in the bedroom!
   A little dirty sex talk goes a long way to heat up the bedroom romance. It’s easy to learn and can really spice up your lovemaking! It’s much more fun than silent lovemaking!
   To quote Evan Michaels, author of “Dirty Talk Handbook”, “… once you’ve mastered the art of dirty talk, you`ll find that your sex life is better than ever before.”
   When you talk dirty during sex, you are basically telling your lover what you like in the sexiest way possible. It’s the perfect way to communicate while you make love. And it can be a huge turn on for both of you. So let go and have some fun!
   Ladies, you may feel a little reluctant to do this. But be assured, if really is fun, and most men absolutely love their woman talking dirty to them. So just start off slowly and keep on practicing. You will soon feel more confident. The more you enjoy learning, the better you will become.
   
10. Last but not least; relax, go slow, and enjoy the ride!
    Tense lovemaking is bad lovemaking. So relax and let it be natural so you can enjoy it. Do what you want to do, not just what you think you should do.
    If you get too hung up on technique and your performance you can lose sight of what really matters; Enjoyment and pleasure. Focus on how amazing it feels. John Alexander, author of “Be her best lover ever”, makes a big point of this.
    Don’t get me wrong though. It’s great to learn some good lovemaking techniques. It’s just not great to be too focused on them. If you try something new, make sure you don’t try too hard. It takes all the pleasure away!
    And guys.... Go slow! There is no hurry in good lovemaking. You can’t enjoy the ride if you are running a race. And neither can your partner. So breathe and slow down. Yes, breathe! Michael Webb really points out the importance of proper breathing in his second book in his “Virtuoso Lover” trilogy.
    Notice of how you are breathing when you make love. Are you taking deep and regular breaths? If you breathe slowly, slowing down will be much easier. And you will start to enjoy the ride much more.

If you take all these expert tips to heart, I am absolutely convinced that your bedroom romance will never be the same again!

I hope you found my Bedroom Romance enlightening and inspiring. If you have any great tips for bedroom romance that you would like to share, please let me know. Just click here to send me a message.
Feel free to tell me about your experience using any of these tips for a better bedroom romance. I would love to hear from you!

  Good-Romantic-Ideas.com

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Alcohol y Sexo

El alcohol se ha considerado por muchas personas como un poderoso estimulante y/o excitante sexual, pero en los trabajos de investigación llevados a cabo se ha constatado que, tanto en hombres como en mujeres, produce efectos negativos sobre las señales fisiológicas de excitación sexual.

En el hombre, en concreto, dosis incluso inferiores a las que se establecen como limite legal para determinar si la persona esta o no embriagada (0.08 %) producen efectos de supresión de la erección. Así mismo el alcohol debilita la eficacia masturbatoria y disminuye el goce y la intensidad del orgasmo masculino.

En las mujeres, incluso ingerido con moderación, dificulta la respuesta orgásmica.


Como ya señalaba Shakespeare " provoca el deseo pero frustra la ejecución"


El alcohol es un potente depresor del sistema nervioso, de forma que sus efectos son claramente apreciables tras la ingestión aunque solo sea de dos o tres copas. Sin embargo las personas suelen ver al alcohol como una substancia que incrementa su funcionamiento sexual.

En la encuesta de Athanasiou Shaver y Tavris (1970) se encontró que el 45 % de los hombres y el 68 % de las mujeres consideraban que el alcohol incrementaba su disfrutar del sexo. Este hecho de que la mayor parte de las personas considera que el alcohol es estimulante, o al menos así lo perciban, y que aumenta su capacidad para la respuesta sexual, puede deberse a su efecto desinhibidor.

Como depresor central disminuye el funcionamiento de niveles superiores del cerebro, lo que permite una mayor autonomía de centros inferiores, (zonas más antiguas del cerebro), entre ellos los implicados en las respuestas emocionales. De esta forma las emociones se amplifican funcionalmente al disminuir el "filtro" o "mecanismo controlador" que supone la actuación de segmentos superiores cerebrales.

En consecuencia el alcohol puede alterar los comportamientos convencionales y hacer a la persona más relajada al permitirle perder el control sobre algunas de sus emociones y desinhibir conductas que ha aprendido a controlar en situaciones sociales.

De esta forma puede facilitar la aparición del impulso sexual, pero dado que también inhibe partes del SNA (Sistema Nervioso Autónomo), implicadas en la respuesta de erección, dificulta el que esta pueda llevarse a cabo y en consecuencia dificulta la penetración y el coito.


Para las mujeres el alcohol parece actuar como un activador psicológico y un inhibidor físico.

Sin embargo, son de considerar problemas adicionales que pueden presentarse con el uso del alcohol en el funcionamiento sexual.

a) Primero, si por los efectos fisiológicos del alcohol se produce algún deterioro, aunque sea esporádico, en el funcionamiento sexual, como un falta de erección o una flacidez tal que dificulte la penetración, es posible que esta situación sea vivida como un fracaso por el hombre que la padece y comiencen a desarrollarse sentimientos de ansiedad asociados a la situación de interacción sexual.

En ocasiones posteriores estos sentimientos de ansiedad dificultaron nuevamente la respuesta de excitación sexual, en concreto la respuesta de erección, pudiendo establecerse de esta manera un circulo vicioso que lleve al desarrollo permanente una disfunción en el hombre.

Así, en contactos sexuales posteriores el hombre se preocupará por si tendrá o no una erección adecuada. El miedo debido a que en la ultima o ultimas ocasiones no haya conseguido una buena erección dificultará el que esta se de, lo que a su vez generará mayor ansiedad y miedo al fracaso cara a posteriores contactos. Cuando este circulo vicioso aparece, es difícil romperlo.

b) Por otro lado, el consumo continuado de cantidades de alcohol elevadas puede producir trastornos endocrinos, neurológicos y vasculares irreversibles, que reduzcan de forma permanente la respuesta sexual.

La pasión sexual

La pasión sexual no se termina...sólo se esconde 

Muchos años de matrimonio, el cansancio de un día agotador, la rutina... todas excusas habituales para justificar la falta de deseo sexual que sufrimos después un tiempo de convivencia y que no hace más que frustrar ciertos aspectos importantes de la vida de la pareja.

Sin embargo, existen formas de reiniciar la pasión perdida, y volver a ver al otro como se lo veía antes. Pero, fundamentalmente, volver a sentir al otro, como se lo sentía antes.

El llegar después de una jornada de trabajo al hogar, debe suponer un momento placentero y de relajación. Un buen baño con sales y espuma con agua tibia, puede ser una excelente ayuda para iniciar un momento erótico, ambientándolo con esencias y fragancias orientales.
Pero para ello, existe una condición muy importante: disfrutar del propio cuerpo, conocerlo.

Mas allá de las condiciones físicas, la mujer debe quererse a si misma y saber que si lo hace, su pareja lo disfrutará mucho mas. Antes de entrar al cuarto, siempre es bueno masajearse un poco con aceites o cremas especiales y estimular todos los sentidos propios.
De los ajenos, se encargarán las fragancias (una vez que se acostumbre, sabrá cuáles le gustan a su pareja). El único tabú debe ser la timidez.

El ambiente es fundamental para crear el clima erótico. Un poco de música romántica. El saxo es sinónimo de pasión y los acordes de guitarra son romanticismo.
Cada uno conoce su propios gustos y los de su pareja, lo demás son velas o inciensos, o hasta incluso tules o sedas acomodadas sutilmente sobre la cama o los muebles.

Parte de la creación de una nueva sexualidad, es el recuerdo de los momentos inolvidables.
Siempre es apasionante, traer a la memoria, aquellos tiempos de pasión desenfrenada y relatarlos como si se los estuviera viviendo. Eso hará revivir el deseo y sentirse como si nada hubiera cambiado.
Al mismo tiempo, comenzar a acariciar al otro en donde uno sabe que le gusta y hacer todo suavemente, sin prisa, pero sin pausa.

El desvestir al otro es el acto erótico mas fuerte previo a hacer el amor. Hacerlo con todo el cuidado del mundo y disfrutar del momento.

Las caricias son el idioma del amor, no hay por qué apurarse ni estar inseguro al hacerlo. Si no se sabe, mejor es preguntar.

Una vez erotizados, y mientras se hace el amor, no hay una meta sino un final.
La meta es disfrutar y hacer disfrutar, y cuanto más tiempo dure este momento, mejor es para la relación y para el recuerdo, que siempre es un buen inicio de una próxima noche de amor.

No importan las edades, ni las rutinas...no importa el cansancio ni el acostumbramiento.
No hay excusas si en realidad se quiere volver a sentir la pasión que parece perdida. Siempre hay forma de recuperarla, porque siempre está ahí...solo hay que saber encontrarla.

Buying Your First Vibrator: A Beginner's Guide

 

I bought my first vibrator at a seedy adult store with blacked-out windows and flashing lights proclaiming XXX-Adults Only! The experience was rather unsettling -- between the guy at the counter reading a girly magazine, and the wall of sex toys beckoning like phallic monstrosities -- I was very overwhelmed.

I grabbed the least intimidating toy on the shelf and walked up to the counter with trepidation, hoping this would be over quickly. It was a crappy toy made of questionable materials that ended up dying after just a few weeks. So much for my first sex toy experience.

These days, purchasing your first vibrator is both easier yet also more complicated. It is easy to browse sex toys online and read various reviews to get an idea of what type of toy you may like. However, because there are literally hundreds of thousands of sex toys to choose from, this also makes choosing a good sex toy much harder. From the huge array of buzzing, osculating, penetrating, tickling, nuzzling, music driven, battery operated or rechargeable objects of pleasure, where do you start?

Vibrators versus Dildos

Seventy percent of women reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation alone, rather than sexual penetration, so for most beginners a vibrator is the best place to start, rather than a dildo. And, while that narrows down your choices, there are still many types of vibrators to choose from and not all of them are ideal for beginners.

Types of Vibrators

Bullets & Eggs
Bullets and egg vibrators are very small and usually fairly powerful for their size. They are discrete and fairly affordable for first-time buyers. They come in many various designs, range in speeds from single to multiple speeds and vibrating patterns. All are fairly simple to use and are perfect for a first time buyer.  The Little Green Machine a 5 Function Bullet with Controller, as it is multi-speed, has a nice smooth coating, and is reasonably priced for anyone who is on a budget.

Pocket Rockets
Pocket Rockets are the best selling small clitoral vibrators on the market. They look like mini pocket flashlights and are very discrete, affordable and simple to use. I prefer them over bullets and eggs because they are easier to manipulate and hold on to, especially if you are wet or slippery with lube. Basic pocket rockets are one speed only, which is usually enough power for a younger woman. I recommend multiple speed rockets because you have more variation and you won’t outgrow them. These are a bit more expensive (about thirty dollars) but worth the investment. I recommend the Pocket Rocket  as a sure bet for a great clitoral vibe.

Magic Wands & Body Massagers
The Hitachi Magic Wand is the best selling and most powerful vibrator ever made, but it is often way too powerful for a first-time buyer. However, body massagers are much smaller, have more variations in speed and are some of my most favorite vibes. An all time favorite vibrator is the Mini Wand Massager,  the Pinkie Poweris one of them. This vibe is great for the beginner and expert vibe enthusiastic as it is multi-speed, but also very discrete and quiet.

Other Types of Vibes

There are several other types of vibrators on the market, but none as ideal for beginners as the three types above. You've heard of Rabbit vibes (Sex and the City?). These vibes feature a vibrating dildo for penetration and clitoral stimulator (flickering rabbit ears) in one. They are much more sophisticated than clitoral-only vibes and may be too advanced for a beginner. In addition, I have never found one that fits perfectly to the female anatomy (everyone is different), so I struggle a lot trying to make these vibes work for me.

G spot vibes are dildos with a curved shape that facilitate G spot stimulation. Most beginners have a hard time stimulating their G spot, so I wouldn't recommend these to start with. Classic and phallic shaped vibes are more geared towards penetration and are not ideal for clitoral stimulation. Strap-on (butterfly) vibes and vibrating panties are not very comfortable, lack power and are hard to position where you want them (hello, clitoris!). Couple's vibes like the We-Vibe or  Mi Amour are expensive, very powerful, and though fun to play with, I don’t recommend them for beginners. Luxury vibes are usually very beautiful, discrete.

Love Rings or vibrating cock rings are great for beginners who want to explore together. They are inexpensive, usually disposable, and can be a great addition to sex with a partner. But, since we are mainly talking about masturbation and self-pleasure here, we'll get back to them at another time.

A Few More Tips

• Be prepared to shop around. While buying online is discrete and you usually get more selection, buying at a local girl-friendly sex toy shop is ideal, as the sales reps can offer help with selection, and turn the vibe on for you, so you can check out the strength.
• Test the strength of a vibrator on the tip of your nose (seriously!). Your nose has a similar sensitivity as your clitoris, so if it tickles, that tells you it will work for your clit as well.
• Make sure the sales person puts in batteries and tests it for you before you take it home if you purchase in store.
• Avoid materials that contain phthalates or other toxic chemicals. Stay away from jelly and rubber and choose plastic, silicone and elastomer. Also, plastic vibes like eggs and pocket rockets translate vibration better than softer materials.
• Check if the store has a returns policy. Most do, but only if the toy breaks. Keep your receipt just in case.
• Bring a friend (or boyfriend) with you for moral support. If shopping online, browsing with your guy can be pretty fun.
• Some vibrators are waterproof, but many are not. Keep that in mind when you purchase, if you intend to use it in the bath or shower.
• Women over forty typically need more power to get off than younger women. Massagers are perfect for women who need that extra boost.

So, that’s the rundown on buying your first vibe. I hope your experience will be much better than mine was. 

 by DominaDoll   (edited)