CONSEJOS PARA AUMENTAR LA SATISFACCIÓN SEXUAL

CONSEJOS PARA AUMENTAR LA SATISFACCIÓN SEXUAL
 

Una de las reglas básicas para mantener con su pareja una relación sexual satisfactoria es hablar y con sinceridad, es decir, hablar siempre al otro aquello que desea, siente. Se puede afirmar que la franqueza es, “una llave para abrir la puerta de la satisfacción sexual”.

Consejos a seguir con su pareja


Háblele de lo que le gusta o no le gusta.


Preocúpese de conocer las preferencias de su pareja y de satisfacerlas.


Durante el acto sexual, especifique qué es lo que quiere o le gusta: frecuencia, técnica, rapidez…


Nunca tenga miedo de expresar todo aquello que le preocupe, sobretodo si se trata de algún aspecto relacionado con su propia satisfacción sexual, como por ejemplo la anorgasmia (dificultades para alcanzar el orgasmo). No eludan sus problemas háblenlos sinceramente e intenten solucionarlos.

Cuando una pareja tiene problemas, estos inciden directamente en sus relaciones sexuales. Por eso es tan importante mantener un buen sistema de comunicación y así poder superar cualquier obstáculo que dificulte la relación, de lo contrario éstos pueden acabar provocando una disminución del apetito sexual.

Factores que deben mantenerse en cualquier pareja


Respeto hacia su compañero.


Tener un buen concepto del otro.


No creer que sin hablar y haciendo el amor se solucionan todos los problemas.


Aprender a comunicarse adecuadamente con su compañero y no esconder los problemas pensando que con el paso del tiempo se olvidarán. Esto no es cierto, es más éstos siempre terminan aflorando.

Consejos para mantener una comunicación sana


Expresar al otro los sentimientos de forma directa y clara, tanto los positivos (alegría, cariño, amor…), como los negativos (ira, enfado, miedo…)


No usar el castigo para conseguir algo del otro. Entendiendo el castigo como insultos, amenazas, agresiones físicas…, y también como “silencios”, “malas caras”.


No ceder, en contra de su voluntad, ante los deseos del otro.


No mantener una postura orgullosa, buscando imponer siempre la voluntad propia.


Expresar todo aquello que se sienta, por minúsculo que parezca, ya que se van a adquirir unos hábitos de comunicación, que facilitarán un mayor acercamiento de la pareja a todos los niveles.

Llegados a este punto queda decir que todos los consejos, orientaciones ofrecidas hasta el momento sólo pretenden ser eso orientaciones, ya que cada persona es un mundo y cada pareja también. Luego, en cada uno está conocer, aprender y practicar las formas más adecuadas para aumentar la satisfacción sexual en la pareja.

Ground Rules for Exploring Fantasies

Ground Rules for Exploring Fantasies
by Tamar Love

Before you begin to explore your fantasies or try anything that could be remotely construed as "alternative," you and your partner need to observe a few ground rules. This is not negotiable; in order to have safe, healthy and consensual sex, you and your partner have to be in full agreement with what you are doing. While it might be difficult or awkward to initiate this conversation, think of how embarrassing or potentially devastating it will be if you do something your partner doesn't welcome.


Think About It
Before you talk to your partner about incorporating some kind of alternative sexual practice into your sexual relationship, think it over carefully. Do you want to do it? If you're unsure, try picking up an erotic book or video that features that particular sexual act. If you find it arousing as you're watching or reading it, you may be ready to try it in real life. Don't be frightened or hesitant about discussing your desires with your partner, just make sure you want to go there before you go there; don't open doors you can't close.


Talk About It
If you or your partner has been thinking about introducing a new element into your sexual relationship, it's important to talk about it before you enact it. Make sure you both want to try the "something new." Talk about what will be involved, how far you will pursue your fantasy, the particulars, and anything else you can think of. If your partner seems interested, even aroused, you are both ready to do it. If your partner is still hesitant or unhappy, you need to talk more before you begin. You might try sharing an erotic film or book with your lover to see if he or she also finds it arousing.


Set Boundaries
Once you and your partner have decided to move forward with your fantasy, set a few boundaries. Decide what elements you want to explore and which ones are off-limits. If it helps, make a written list of what you can and cannot do. Needless to say, it's critical that you observe these guidelines. If, during play, you decide you want to go further, make a mental note for next time. Never accelerate or escalate play without discussing it first.


Pick a "Safe" Word
With your partner, select a "safe" word, a word that, when uttered by one of you, immediately halts all sexual play. Choose something you aren't likely to say during your play; for example, "tongue" would be a poor safe word, while "celery" would probably work fine. Only speak this word when a boundary is violated or when one of you changes your mind about the direction of the play.


Debrief
When your play is finished for the night, take a few minutes to talk about what you and your partner just experienced, what worked and what didn't, what you loved and what you hated. This used to be called "pillow talk;" now it's called "debriefing." An excellent time to discuss boundaries, acceleration, deceleration or escalation of your fantasies, your debriefing time is also a good opportunity to reaffirm your connection with one another.
That said, get ready to play! There is absolutely nothing wrong with experimenting with different forms of sexual play, provided both partners are happy about it. In fact, by bringing new elements into your sexual relationship, you are actually improving your relationship and making it healthier. Note: The term "alternative sex" can mean just about anything you want it to, just as "normal" can mean different things to different people. However, for our purposes, we'll define alternative sex as anything other than man-on-top, woman-on-bottom intercourse.